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One thing I would be very careful to do is not to "romanticize" the situation. I don't mean this to sound unkind at all, but I can see that a loving person such as you sound could so easily let yourself imagine life with this little girl as the perfect solution. I appreciate your love for this child and your desire to make a better life for her. But considering what this child has been through and witnessed already in her young life, it would seem there could be some significant issues in her young life. The fact that she lived with a 10yr old who had been sexually abused suggests the possibility that she may have suffered some of the same. It certainly doesn't sound as if the children are supervised in any significant way. If this is the case, this child certainly needs a loving home anyway...but just know that these difficult issues could be part of her history and future. I only mention these things to help you consider what is best not only for this child but for you and your family. I think first it's important when considering adoption what types of issues you feel ready to handle. Anything can come up in the life of any child, adopted or bio...but I believe strongly that adoptive parents need to go into it with a general idea of the kinds of issues they are ready to deal with. I'm wondering if the best for this child might even be to be placed in a family far removed from her birth family, if the courts decide she should be taken away from her mother. I can't imagine how difficult family issues could become, if this little girl became your daughter. You would probably continue to have some type of contact with the birth mother and/or her/your relatives. How hard would this situation be for you in the future? Just some questions to consider. I do pray for the best for this child, whatever that may be. And I wish you the best, as you seek to build a family through adoption. Though this may seem like it could potentially become the "easiest" way to begin your family...I would be concerned with some of the issues it could also involve between relatives.
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