agree
we were warned by our attorney's office not to take the baby home from the hospital and "babysit" until the papers were signed. instead, they suggested the baby go to private foster care for the remainder of the time it was going to take for the bdad's 30 days to be up (for contesting purposes - we're in florida). we all balked. we were merely going to babysit for our friend, and if she decided to take the baby home to her home state, (or if "baby daddy" contested) so be it. not the dream ending per se, but not a bad ending. instead it ended up that WE forfieted the chance to adopt the baby (too close to bmom, tons of afterbirth drama, etc.) and another family ended up getting her. now every second we shared with the baby haunts us. what was so beautiful then is UBER painful now. if we ever did this again, which i can't say we ever will, we would certainly NOT have the baby in our home until AFTER consents were signed. this is very wise. you get too close when the children come to the home and you're doing umbilical cord care, waking up all night for feedings, assuming the role of mommy... and then losing the child. better that your daily family life never change its dynamic, especially with younger kids in the house. my two-year-old is STILL asking where the baby is...
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