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Something also to think about. I think daughters sometimes try to find acceptance in fathers, it makes up what their relationship with future men are many times. You said there were issues about the afamily. She may feel that she needs that male "father" acceptence. Not saying it is right or wrong. I know my daughters lost their father when they were 9 and 11. They are now 17 and 19. They love their step father, but you can tell, they are looking for that "father", that "love" from an man, to protect them and all of that stuff. They aren't promiscuious or anything like that at all, but you can tell, losing them at such an age has had a profound effect on them.
All you can do is be there. I think mom's get the bum wrap any ways. It's like our children know, as mothers, we love them unconditionally and will always be there for them. Seems the people closest to you are the ones you hurt the most.It's like you kow they will always be there. Good luck and keep writing here, you will find wonderful support.
Carolyn
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Carolyn
"And now I’m glad I didn’t know
The way it all would end, the way it all would go.
Our lives are better left to chance. I could have missed the pain
But I’d of had to miss the dance"
-The Dance by Garth Brooks
*memory of C. Scott Padget, III
"But it's all right now, I learned my lesson well.
You see, ya can't please everyone, so ya got to please yourself
-Garden Party by Ricky Nelson
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