[saranbr]

So DH and I are discussing our second adoption and debating whether we ought to pursue a referral of a child older or younger than our daughter (13 mos now). I'm quite familiar with the potential attachment issues but would appreciate input/advice from you all around other issues like interupting birth order and having an age difference possibly less than the biological norm of 9+ months.

Neither of us feel a need to have another infant and I know there are many toddler and older children that need homes, but we've had a number of "warnings" about interupting birth order, etc. In fact, one agency we spoke to flatly refuses to place a child unless he/she is at least 9 months younger than the youngest in the home. We would probably choose a 3-4 year old.

Thankyou in advance! Sara