[angelkisses0102]

Go with your gut! You are the only person who knows this child...

Personally, I wouldn't risk attachment for anything...but as you know, my situation and my view are tainted by 'getting' the 'one' who didn't attach.

Throwing in another stop will be confusing at best...the poor child will have gone from orphanage to hotel, to Moscow to hotel....spent unGodly amounts of time on a plane and then stay at yet another place that will not be her home, get on another plane and then finally arrive home.

Many of our kids need structure and calm...the sooner the better for them...because it is all about them those first months home, IMHO. I say continue on and if DH wants to stay and visit.....fine. My guess is there is a reason 15 years have passed since a visit and your new daughter is not the reason...why take the chance with her? You don't know them and have no obligation to them...sorry sounds harsh...but life sometimes is.

I guess what I am saying is will YOU look back with regret for going or not going? Your child may be fine either way...but if she does struggle, will you blame the trip?

Again, I know my opinions & posts aren't popular but...I lived the hell of AD...not everyone does.

All the best whatever you decide.

***ETA*** The first thing we did with both kids was get them to the pedi ASAP....like home Saturday....pedi Monday. Both kids truly 'needed' to get there...nothing major but, things needed treatment.