[quote=julie23]
Julie,
Keepher posted on family business. She IS family and that is her RIGHT. She can tell you if she doesn't want any news and so far has said yes, she does. We'd tell a distant cousin if this were happening, so why not your daughter? Get me?
I too have just reconnected with my birth daughter and I know how difficult this is. My family doesn't have any boundaries, so I will leave it to her to set some of her own and abide by them. To put it simply, I will take anything she can give me and be content. Better than never having seen her again and always wondering. Right?
I understand how you feel, "not wanting to be a burden" and I guess we all have that feeling. The thought that we are not entitled to be a part of their lives or hearts. It's always there for me, as well.
Did you ever meet her mother? I'm hoping to meet my daughters Mother and brother. That would be such a gift to me. For us all to know that that particular boundary stays in place. That her Mother and brother will always be her Mother and brother.( as well as the rest of her family)
Hang in there Julie, take what you can from her and enjoy it. hugs julie.
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