[SchmennaLeigh]

Excuse me?

I am a "nice, clean and moral" firstparent. I was when I got pregnant as well. I made a poor choice and, thus, suffered the consequences of my actions.

And that's all you have to say. We have free will. God lets us make our own decisions. And, if we falter and make a decision that is not within his plan for our lives, we often have to pay a consequence. Some of us learn the lesson while others have to learn again and again.

Note that your judgement of the birthparents that you have mentioned and their, to quote you, if it feels good do it and talk about it lifestyle is the same as living that lifestyle. Instead, concentrate on her positives and encourage the daughter to pray for her firstmom.

Just listening to a pastor on the radio the other day. There are ways we teach our children. If you want your child to pray, first you tell them to pray, discuss the importance and how it can change our lives. Then LET THEM SEE YOU PRAYING. Dinner. Bedtime. In the car. Where-ever. Then encourage them to pray on their own.

Accentuate the positive and pray for the firstmom with the child. It not only shows respect but continues to build a strong faith within the child.