[timni]

OK I voted only in certain circumstances and I want to clarify my point.

I think it is usually a very bad choice....however I think there are always circumstances that can warrant an exception. What if a bmom was put out on the streets or beeing abused etc.. I know that if that had been the case with E (bmom) I would have been in my car picking her up and bringing her to my house until things could be sorted out. We were planning on becoming an extended family and yes it could have caused HUGE problems but I could have done no less.

Thankfully most of us are not in this situation so we get to speak hypothetically but If we make die hard rules with no leeway we can end up causing more pain. So I guess that is my explanation.

Please let me reitterate I think it is usually a very bad choice. But you just never know.