SisterBear:
We have a bio and decided to adopt instead of trying to get pregnant again. . .to be honest, we just feel that God is leading us to adopt. We constantly get the "Why not just have your own?" question (hate that question!).
Me too. I got pregnant with DS (now almost 5) without really trying, had an easy pregnancy and LOVED being pregnant (I cried when I went into labor b/c I knew I wouldn't be pregnant anymore
, with a easy, drug-free deliverly. But once we seriously began thinking about another child, I felt more of a desire to adopt than to birth. I don't really have a good, short answer to the "why not just get pregant again" question. Maybe b/c the 1st time went so well, and I don't want to push my luck with the next one? Maybe b/c even if you follow the reccommedations to the letter, your best chance of "natural" gender selection is only 75%? Maybe because I love my son so much but still feel the NEED to love a daughter the way my mom loves me? I know I will have a totally unique and stronger bond with each of my kids based on the different ways they came into our family- but both are gifts from God.