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Re: Re: Re: Shell, wait a few more years
Originally Posted By adoptee/adopter
I counsel both adoptees/adopters and birthmoms-so I find it ironic that you call yourself the voice of experience,but whatever.I think you are confusing your story with others.You had an neglectful birthmother that you found.Big difference.Bmoms that place at birth are not criminals,because yours was.I also know that I would never say something alike you did to the adoptee.You could have said it without damaging her feelings.Do you resent her because she is searching?What if your son needs to be with his bmom for his sanity?Why does that have to be a bad thing?If she was abusive-then I don't think you should have found her BUT for you to tell infant adoption people not to search is wrong-because you don't know what it feels like,I do.
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