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So far, I haven't heard back from her, but as time passes, I'm sure she'll learn of our plans and perhaps consider us. I think it's a bad move, but my husband, who is the eternal optimist, does not see any problems.
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Well I think it is VERY presumptuous to think that just because she finds out you want to adopt, that she would consider you. (I know you said perhaps.)
I actually agree with you and think it is a bad idea. Not just because she is somewhat close to you..but because if she makes this decision and then regrets it... she is going to look back and who is going to be standing there with her child? I think the right thing to do in this case.. would be that if she DOES approach you (nothing should be said TO her, IMO) she should be referred to counselling and perhaps your agency later. She should not deal with you directly.. if she goes through parent profiles and chooses you, then GREAT... but calling you for advice and then you ending up with her baby... well that smells like coersion and in my opinion will look like it clear as day when she looks back.
Not everyone wants to be a mom... well that is true... but considering adoption and placing for adoption are two different things... she doesnt yet know the bond she will have with her child. So her choosing to parent in the end might also cause a rift. You dont want to put her in a position where she will feel guilty should she choose to parent her child at the last minute.
The best thing for you to do here is just act as her friend and help her find unbiased counselling to consider her options.
And as always, remember that the child's father also has a say in all of this.