[kakuehl]

I'm a bmom from the old days... when all adoptions were closed. (At least as far as I knew.) At least you know where she is and can keep lines of communication open (even if only through her bmom right now.) One of the most difficult things for me as a bmom over the years was that I had NO way to know if he was well or even alive. T's bmom knows where T is and knows she can contact you. The feelings of being reunited with her bmom may leave her emotionally unable to deal with the consequences of her own life choices right now. As others have said... give it time.

How is T's grandma (bmom's amom) dealing with this latest development in her adaughter's life? This whole situation can't be easy for her.

I'm not sure there's anything you can do to comfort T's bmom. She has to find the answers for herself. You can try to be non-judgmental and keep sending those pictures. (at some point they will mean a lot!) Try not to take this withdrawl personally. You may have to deal with the fact that your ideal open adoption relationship is not what you are living.

Keep loving T! That's probably the best thing you can you for everyone!

Blessings,
Kathy