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Hi,
I doubt it has anything to do with her having any change of heart or not caring about T. She herself is adopted...many emotions were probably stirred up during T's pregancy and birth, and then the adoption on top of that, and has now reunited with her own bmom. That is a lot going on in someone's life! Reunion itself is an extremely emotional time, a time when your world is turned inside out, and she is likely trying to cope with a flood of emotions while also establishing a relationship with her birth mother who, you wrote, didn't have anything to do with the abuse. She knows T is in good hands and this allows her freedom to work on some of her own issues...but in time things will likely settle down and she will probably reestablish contact -- just when one couldn't predict at this point. She is also experiencing grief related to T's adoption as well and at this point it's only been 5 mos. Her own birth mother is seeing this and trying to buffer her by receiving the contact herself -- this doesn't necessarily mean indefinitely, though this may be your fear. I would continue with communication between the bgrandma and of course the adoptive mom -- though this isn't direct contact right now with T's birth mom, it is a form of contact and allows the communication lines to remain open for the future with her herself.
Merrill
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