[Niclayson]

Thanks to all for their replys and PM's. It seems this initial transition period is rough for many infants. I had always seen post after post of how wonderful everything was upon arrival home and it made me wonder what was wrong with my family and my child! That's why I did this post...to warn and inform others about these very possible issues.

I was emotionally exhausted from the whole adoption process and was so looking forward to just having my son home. I was NOT prepared for his mourning and grieving process. I had been told by the social worker to read up about attachment issues and had done some reading. But I wish someone had just been honest and said..."The first few weeks are not always bliss....as a matter of fact they may be awful. You need to be prepared for the anger and fear your child will have. And be ready to have that anger be directed at you."

The adoption process and the difficult transition has been the most physically, emotionally exhausting thing i have ever done as an adult and a parent. If this is your very first child, it would be even more overwhelming...as is the case with my close friend who is also experiencing this mourning in her child. Her child was in a WONDERFUL, WARM foster care environment the whole time.

So read up and be informed. I wish you all the best of attachments with your children.