|
We adopted in a similar situation. When the adoption was contested and things got really nasty in the courts I was surprised that both families were able to - being inextricably entwined - still stay supportive and wanted what was best for everyone involved. Our adoption - 4 years later - is still in the courts but we have weathered it all amazingly well and remained close (no one 'sided up', etc). Even now in a small town with media attention in the beginning - and new media attention regarding new criminal charges in the family now - we are still able to remain close.
So, to make a long story short, yes it can be done - even in the worst-case scenario. BUT I am amazed that we have all done it so well when it had the definite potential for disaster. A small town, two entwined families, criminal charges, media attention, a nasty contested adoption, you can only imagine. So put yourself here in four years and then see if you think your family can weather the storm. If I could have foreseen all of this I would have done things differently. BUT - again, here we are and still intact.
Good luck to you - I wish you the best.
|