[amouton]

You got that right! I thought the same thing going through it and our case was relatively short compared to some. But after going through a first horribly long labor and a second just plain horrible labor I was very certain no pain could be any worse. Wrong!!! The first time I had to give my son back to his foster mother, it felt like I was going through labor in my heart. I felt as if someone had died. I just stood there with my husband holding me up, while feeling like I was going to hyperventalate. It just kills me when someone says, "You had it so much easier this time, at least you didn't have to go through labor". I don't think anything compares to that kind of pain and somehow, as painful as it was to give him back the joy of visiting was so great that we couldn't stay away. The thought of seeing him again was the only thing that got me through our process, eventhough I knew that the pain of giving him back would eventually have to return. And I swear I went through three sets of the baby blues after each of our visits with him, which I hadn't experienced after my births. So I definately agree with you. At the same time it is alot like labor in the fact that you forget about the pain when your child finally comes home and some want to do it all over again.