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Hi
He is greiving. He has been through alot. Our daughter did the same thing..for at least 6 months. She whined almost constantly... when she wasn't crying. I carried her for up to 6 hours a day or more in a sling. If I even turned my back to her she would cry. I had to have her on my lap when I was going to the bathroom. When I took a shower I would have the curtain open so she would see me and she would still cry the whole time I was in there..took her 6 months to take a nap more than 5-10 min. She had night terrors, in addition to being up every 15 min at night..I would go up to 3 days without a shower. My husband didn't take even 1 day off from work to help me. She also had a horrendous time with teething. She was also very malnourished and on 5 bottles at night..

Then, when things were finally getting better and she started taking naps in the afternoon and was only up a few times at night, she got overdosed with vaccines (heavy metal toxicity) and it was downhill again from there. I only got about 3 weeks of bliss before she stopped napping and was up every 15 min at night again..now..at 35 months she still doesn't nap and is up around 2-4 times at night.

I can totally empathize. I would say to continue with what you are doing..co-bath, co-sleep, carryin in a sling..always hold his bottle for him, have one primary caretaker for as long as possible..
You could try adoptive nursing if you want..you can PM me for information.

What helped us also is infant massage..start with 5 min and work up to 15 min 4 times a day..
There are books at the library on Therapeutic Infant Massage...I just used a little vegetable oil..you don't have to buy fancy massage oils..

It can take around 6 months or so for them to form a secure attachment..sometimes quicker sometimes longer..but you are definately on the right track...thanks for sharing!