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No, for the same reason that I don't think paparents should ever pay for living expenses. Not only does it create an atmosphere of obligation, the issues (family problems, poverty, abuse, etc.) that bring an expectant mom to the point of needing a place to live or needing financial help during pregnancy will likely continue after the baby's birth. And where does that leave her? I feel this way even when the e-mom's troubles are temporary (ie not being able to work due to pregnancy). Placing a child for adoption and needing help with rent or buying maternity clothes should be two separate issues.
I think a more practical and ethical solution is to provide expectant moms with information about programs like food stamps, housing assistance, medi-care, WIC, etc. and let her choose to take advantage of those programs or not.
IMO, by helping her to be self-sufficient during her pregnancy, maybe by the time the baby is born she can choose adoption (or not) from a position of relative strength.
Shari
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