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to the Birthmom/father: I would say what I've already said 100 times...."Thank You. Without your gift of life, we wouldn't have a family, or know what it means to be a mom or dad." Now I would just want to reassure her of her choice and tell her how much he is loved.

To my child: "Your firstmommy loved you sooo much that she choose to give you life. She wanted you to go to a family that would love you and she asked God to guide her to us. You were never "given" away or unloved. She did the ultimate selfless thing. Being your parent has blessed us beyond our dreams. The happieness that we get from you each day is priceless. "

From the Birthmom to us: That she is happy for her decision and is at peace with it.