[aspenhall]

The one thing that you have not told them that you absolutely could not go on for another day without telling them...

Well, I think I always make sure to tell them all that stuff. But it would probably be, that we intend for her to have face to face visits and be invited to special events later on. (we don't do face to face right now) I hope she knows that she is as much a part of our family as our dd is. I tell her in every letter how we love her.

In addition what is the one thing that you would tell your child??

Again, I don't like to leave stuff unsaid.... She already knows how long I wished for a little girl just like her..I already tell her important stuff, but perhaps it would be to explain why there is limited contact and explain bmom's childhood....but again I'll be telling her all that as she grows....so...I dunno there.....she already knows that because we were sealed in the temple (mormon thing) we will be a family forever even after we die.


What one thing do you wish your childs birth/first parents would tell you??

Everything. There is so much that I still don't even know about her life and her childhood.....or for that matter, the life of the bdad....Information that helps me get to know them better. I would like to know how THEY think the adoption should be explained....or if they have any concerns about how we explain it...why...