I am a bmom and I wanted to find my daughter when she turned 18, but I was afraid that it would be too soon. Not to mention, I was hoping she'd look for me. I was afraid of disrupting her life. I could not wait any longer, so I decided this was the year, she is now 20. I found her within just a couple of weeks amazingly enough. I did as many of you said and sent her a letter. I didn't want to cause the deer in the headlights effect by calling her. I am so glad there are posts like these to give bmoms and bdads insight into how adoptees feel about the whole process. Thank you all so much!
