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I don't have any words of wisdom...sorry. I do relate though. My DD was adopted at the age of 5. She has had 14 placements (!!!!!). She is RAD and has many other "challenges". To help her control herself, I find that I have to be very consistant and structured. My extended family doesn't understand why I have the rules I do. I constantly hear, "Just let her be a kid!" and "Leave her be!". But sure enough, everytime I ignored something, to go along with what my family felt was right, my DD would have a major blow-out (lose control/temper tantrum). Once when I was pressured to let her play unsupervised with another little girl in a bedroom, I walked into inappropriate play, instigated by the other child. I will always regret giving in. In my gut I knew something was not right.
You are stronger than I was in the beginning. I did finally learn that I know my child best, and I know what is right for her. My family gets mad at me plenty, but that no longer sways my choices. Sure wish that they'd try to understand and help more that hinder, though!
You're doing the right thing, hang in there!
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