[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

I just received an e-mail from Bear's bgma. His mother has not seen him since he was 3 months old and we have not heard from her since then either. She requested an open adoption agreement, but has never followed thru on her part at all.

Today I get an e-mail that says "I thought you would want A's address. Here it is. She sent me a Mother's Day card today and know she misses Bear too." SO, I am getting the feeling that she basically is asking us to send bmom a Mother's day card. Am I wrong for feeling that it is extreemly tacky?

The thing is, I was wishing I had a way to contact bmom, but I am really bugged by this. She has not made one effort to see, write, or even e-mail us in regards to Bear, yet we should send her a Mother's Day card! I also feel that bgma is trying to reinforce bmom being "Mommy"...since she has all but denied my role in Bear's life. We have honored this open adoption with his gma for HIS sake, but there is a part of me that is tired of these selfish games and one way street. GRRRRR!

Thanks for listening.