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Folks -

Boy - a story of ups and downs!

With some help from some angels here, along with an outside service (Jan Bowyer), locating the a-parents and my son proved to be straight-forward and quick. I was all ready to write some nice letters, when I was pre-empted...

The birth mom went ahead and called the a-parents.

Well, we were lucky so far: they were very nice and receptive, and volunteered to notify our son. Since the b-mom had called, I also made a call, apologizing for the lack of a letter, etc. - and also had a nice conversation.

The calls by the b-mom didn't stop there, however. She is winding herself up very, very tightly and seems near ready to burst. I don't think she's been very happy with her life, and seems to be counting on some sort of wondrous reunion to make all right with her world. To that end, she made at least several additional calls that I'm aware of - and may well have placed more.

We've parted ways for at least now, after she was most unhappy with my and my wife's advice to slow down and take it easier. I've written the a-parents a letter, indicating that I'm going to quietly stand to the side and remain available should my son desire to initiate contact.

Anyone have any good ideas on how to defuse this at least a bit? Any way to purge or drain some of the emotional load being dumped?

Advice welcomed!!!


Kevin (the worried b-dad)