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Scared, I think all of your concerns are normal.. even for people who planned pregnancies. Yours are compounded a little bit, sure, having had a relationship with the person you did. BUT, it sounds like you have a strong family connection, and that's more than what many people have.
And your family, just from the warmth of your post it's clear how much you care for them, they will be there for you. Maybe someone will say something stupid to you at first, but it will settle in, and I bet long before your baby is born they will all be completely supportive. If they are not, they will be soon after they see that little baby. ;-)
We tried to become parents for four years.. and it finally happened 8 weeks ago. AND, we were afraid of all the same things. Scared that we wouldn't know what to do, wouldn't be able to (or that the child wouldn't like us), scared that our relatives would look down on us or DD, and our relationship with her bparents. When we got home with her, we were SCARED TO DEATH to be alone with her! But we did it, and are doing it, and it's so not scary anymore. Yeah, I worry about her getting a bad cold... she's so little and doesn't really know how to cough or anything. But, we'd deal with it.
And our fears were all baseless. Normal, but baseless. Our families have embraced her as warmly as they have every other child born into our families. The one thing we are still working on is some relatives just don't GET adoption, let alone open adoption, but we were prepared for these minor growing pains with them.
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