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Originally Posted by crick
Chielu...I see your points. But...regardless of the fact that one wishes the best for the mom making a decision to raise her child, there is still a grief process of feeling that you were about to be a parent and it didn't happen.
It's a natural part of life to grieve...even for things not meant to happen. We do it all the time...a job we didn't get, a home we didn't own, a life we wished we had but don't. So if we grieve over "little" things such as these, obviously one would grieve for a child not meant to be theirs.
I think though...that your post is insensitive here on this thread. You've got valid points...because as you say, if a mom decides she can parent after all, that is indeed a good thing. Still though...do you really feel this is the right time or place to say that? Can one grieve a little without having all this shoved at her?
Lastly...I think it's a bit arrogant of you to state that "WE", meaning all adoptees feel a certain way. Why not just speak for yourself instead of making a blanket statement to include everyone else? Not every adoptee feels as you do..to be part of their flesh and blood or raised by "their" people.
JMO...
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My thoughts exactly... regardless of what angle you see this from, the OP is hurting from the loss of a child she thought might be in her family. She must be allowed to grieve, just as we grieve for other situations that don't work out.