Chielu,
"Adoption is not a remedy for infertility or a means of creating a family."
Adoptive families are every bit as much of a FAMILY as biological ones. What has happened to you to make you so bitter?? Whatever it is, I feel for you.
Your remarks were very insensitive. When you lose a child, whether that child was yours by birth or adoption, no matter how long the child is with you, it is a painful process likening to a death. This woman has a right to grieve and should not be told to rejoice!
An adoptive family gains the joy of their child via a birthmother's pain. No one expects the birthmother not to grieve, why on earth should you expect an adoptive mother not to feel the same?
Perhaps you should contain comments like that to the adoptee board if that's how people feel there. Don't subject someone already in pain to such hurtful and insensitive words.
BTW, not all adoptive parents come to adoption through infertility, it's best not make assumptions.
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3 yrs TTC; wanted to adopt but didn't have the $ 
Just found out that my friend's cousin is 8 mths along and wants to give the baby up; my friend told her about us, we met, and BOOM we're adopting!
Currently struggling to pay adoption costs & prepare for baby, all with 1 MONTH'S notice! 
Last edited by unexpectedblessing : 05-01-2006 at 09:18 AM.
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