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Originally Posted By akat

as far as I can tell there is no way to keep yourself from hurting. If you truly are in foster parenting to help the child then you must love them and care for them as your own there just doesnt seem to be any other way. I to am a foster parent of 5 yrs and we have fostered 8 different children. We currently have a boy age 11 months who we got as a 2 wk respite when he was 3months old. He spent 2months in hospital after birth and then 1 month with another foster family and has been with us since. At the end of the 2wk respite the other foster family couldnt take him and we kept him because what else could we do. We are very attached to him and he is very attached to us. He will probably go home to mom in a few months and our hearts will break (we do have other children and they love him to). We know we will greive and he will grieve for us. Of course we will remember him forever and he probably wont remember us at all. But all we hope for is that the love and stability we gave him will give him a strong secure base for the rest of his life. Good Luck Akat