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Rilo,
Thanks for your kind words about the journal.
Just so you know, I would also love to have something like that, but my bmom and I are incommunicado, and my bdad, well, he's a guy, so that will never happen! So I share your dream of having a scrapbook, and in the meantime I keep my own journal.
You described the state of affairs so well by calling it, "100 questions." What questions are you afraid to ask? Do you find, like I do, that your bparent has to be in the right mood to answer queries about the past?
You are correct about the strange feeling of being found, especially at such a young age, and about the need for control. My bdad understood this. I know because of his actions at the time and because he has since told me that he felt that since I had no say in the adoption, I should at least have control over meeting him.
The whole reunion thing is complicated, but I think you're right about the security that comes with age and experience being very important.
I do wonder, like you do, though, how would my life have been different if I had met my bdad at 18? How do you think yours would have been different if you had met bmom earlier?
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