Thank you Jenn. I appreciate your opinion!
Do you think 5 is too young to share this?
I kind of think the younger the better, but I'm just not sure. She can comprehend her other brother because she sees him, but at 5 will she understand the meaning of having a brother that she cannot see?
I like that suggested I tell her birthmother first. I didn't think of that, so thank you for sharing. I would have probably shared after the fact but not before. I will discuss it with her before saying anything to dd. I don't want to do anything that might put our relationship in jeopardy.
Thanks for your help. It is much appreciated!