[jstodd01]

Personally I love it. But to play devils advocate it could seem like a slap in the face to the mom. if I were you I would just givethe stuff to the worker and have the worker tell her to give the list to her and she will make sure you get it. Leave the mom out of the equation.The bmom is the one with the problem not you. Take her out of the problem and you have no problem. If things are that bad when you are face to face with her ask the worker if you can drop S off early or make arrangements for the worker to pick up S so you have no contact with T. I ended up using the back door to our offices so I wouldn't have any contact with the bparents.