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Originally Posted by Yash
Manni,
I can't speak for everyone but as for me I know I was called to adopt internationally. Through God taking some tragic circumstances in my life and turning them into something good and positive, I'm adopting my first son through my state's fost/adopt program. I have a beautiful, intelligent son whose adoption was supposed to take 6 months, we're now 9 1/2 months past that. His SW says his adoption should be finalized in the fall. My son will be 2 in December. Almost 2 years to adopt! It's insane!
As for private domestic adoption, I don't like the idea of getting my hopes up and then the birthmother changes her mind. That would just crush me, plus I'm not down with open adoption, which more and more domestic adoptions are becoming.
So for these reasons, I'm going where I was orginally called to go. Some places where the referral time is longer, but once I get to Vietnam or China or Guatemala, I know I will have a beautiful, wonderful baby in my arms.
As for what my family says about me adopting internationally, well my mother who isn't pro-adoption now speaks up on that subject for me. After witnessing this ongoing adoption process with her grandson, my mother now understands why people adopt internationally.
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I wholeheartedly agree with and support Yash for her decision to adopt internationally and I plan to do the same as well. I have posted on this topic before and I felt that my post to previous topics was still relevant so I have decided to repost it....
I not only plan to adopt here from the US, but also from other countries as well. Do I feel bad about not just wanting to adopt AA children..NOT AT ALL! I am often criticized when I tell people of my plans to adopt kids of all different races and not just AA kids and kids from countries where the people are of African Descent. I believe that this is what God has ordained for my life and most black people I know think I am some kind of race trader because I feel called to adopt children of many different races, not just black people.
The sad part is most of the people who criticize are people who don't help AA kids out in anyway or have any plans to help out AA kids....(adoption, humanitarian aid etc.).yet they always have something to say about what you should or should not do. Go figure!
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