We have three bio daughters (13, 7, 1.5). We know we could have more children, but have decided to pursue adoption. We did our adoption training seminar in January of 2004 and did our homestudy in February. Right before our last home visit we found out we were expecting and they agency closed our file - it would have been nice if they would have told us that this was the policy, considering we told the worker that we were not infertile and planned to have more bio kids.
We reapplied as soon as they let us (our youngest dd had just turned one). Our worker was surprised to hear from us again so soon, and asked when we started considering adoption again. Uh... you closed our file, not us!
We told her we were just waiting until they would let us apply again.
Our friends and family don't understand why we've decided to go this route, considering we can have more children. We're looking to adopt a sib group from the public system - between the ages of our oldest and youngest girls. DH wants at least one boy (poor man
). For us it just makes sense. I would prefer not to try giving birth to older children, as I imagine it would be somewhat uncomfortable
We're looking to try to close the age gaps between the kids we already have, and we're not wanting to start over with more babies. Maybe more babies later - through international adoption. I'm was a grumpy, gestational diabetic pregnant woman, and had such high blood pressure last time that they were worried I'd have a stroke. Not willing to chance that again.
Dawn H.