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Old 04-21-2006, 07:42 AM
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Beatrix, no unfortunately I dont know of any, I am not saying I agree with closed adoption nor am I sayingI agree with open adoption personally I am on the fence in believing that semi open is the way to go! But thats neither here nor there, I will explain why I feel the way I feel. First there are only a few states in which agreements are legally binding, with that said, I had a good faith semi open adoption where my Birthsons aparents promised to send letters and pics periodically throughout the year, no set amount and no set times! We did this corresponding for 7 years through the agency. Almost 9 yrs ago the agency decided to close and they called me asking if they could forward my address to the aparents and we could set up a way to continue contactsince of course they wouldnt be there anymore to forward letters to each of us! I agreed and the aparents set up a POBox for me to send my letters to, however after I sent my first letter to the PObox they closed it with no forwarding address. I havent heard from them for 9 yrs. I am and have been for 9 yrs worried, sad, scared, confused, what happened?? What did they tell my bson about having no more letters coming from me? Does he think I just didnt want to correspond anymore? So you can see why I push so hard for keeping your word, not that I dont think you will, I just use my situation to inform others what birthmoms go through when that happens. It wouldnt have been so bad had they just said (with good reason of course) that it wasnt benefiting M to have on going correspondence but to just disappear makes me wonder!


Anyways, good luck in your journey to becoming a Mom I wish you the best
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