Sometimes, I don't think the agencies realize how fragile their clients are. Our hearts, bodies and wallets are pretty beat up from the variety of treatments - and this is before we begin to write home study checks or start assembling dossiers!
If they knew how violated you feel with all of the procedures...then you have to be "okayed" by so many people, including family, friends, clergy...just to get in this crazy world of waiting!!
We have a bio son and they just made sure that we had a car seat when we left the hospital...and sent us off with a free can of formula! It should be mandated that all folks involved in agency work have a few infertility treatments...and 50 people ask "when are you two going to have kids?" prior to ever stepping into their offices!
I am grateful that you all are here...the adoption world is such a warm place
Thank you!