Shana while I do agree that "some" do reconcile themselves and do go on to do whats best for the child, the fact still remains that "some" dont. I just think that if it isnt in your plans to have some type of communication then you are setting yourself up to fail. I for one wouldnt settle for anything, I am of the opinion if you work hard enough to get what you want and if you want it bad enough you can have it! I have to question how good things can be if you start off not really wanting it?KWIM? I mean if I wanted grapes but the store only had bananas and I knew I had to have fruit so I bought the bananas I may get home and taste the bananas and think this isnt what I wanted, it can cause many emotions and resentments!
Anyway not comparing bananas and grapes to the importance of a child but ya know what I mean!
