[DreamingAzure]

I think that "reconciled" is probably a better word then "settled" for what Beatrix meant...at least from what I'm reading into her posts.

I think a number Aparents reconcile themselves to having more contact with Bfamilies than they themselves would like...sometimes for the good of their child, and sometimes because they feel pressured by the agencies as being the ONLY way they can become parents to healthy infants.

Life is about compromize and reconcilization, & it's not usually fair(if it was many of us would have bio children in addition to our children who are adopted. Or keep the child we are placing for adoption). Sometimes we have to do things that aren't in our orginal plans and out of our comfort level..that doesn't mean that we don't give it our all when the time comes. It just means it's not our orginal choice.