[bmomliz16]

I gave bdaughter all the info she needs, after flip-flopping on this exact same issue about a million times. I finally concluded for myself that my relationship with her is mine and that his should be his own, separate entities. She has made the comment that we could all get together and have a happy "family reunion." I had to nip that in the bud real quick. While I've been extremely respectful in speaking of him, those eyes are not eyes I ever want to see again, and to hear that voice again would bring me unimaginable pain. Bdaughter does not need to witness that. That is for me to deal with, not bring to the table. Luckily in her I see his beauty, something I blocked out for a very long time. I have warned bdaughter to take into consideration all the "what-ifs" when it comes to contact with him. More than likely he will request a DNA. I've explained that this is not a slam against me or her, but that he's the type of person who will NEED that confirmation. Honestly, I would be the same way if I were a man in today's society. Sorry for rambling.