[Bug-n-Bears-Mommy]

I have to say, the first I ever heard of someone seeking other's to help them pay for their adoption was when I was looking up "adoption" on e-bay. There was a "Buy it now" (anyone familiar with e-bay knows what I am talking about) option for $45K. It was a woman who was basically selling her infertility and lack of financial security story for $45k. I was STUNNED! My first thought was if you can't afford to actually pay your own bills, let alone PAY for your adoption, what the heck are you wanting to bring a child into your home for?

There are many alternative ways of not just raising money, but less expensive paths to adoption out there. I think you are right on both aspects...they have 5 bio children of their own, so why not concentrate on them? Then to feel that they need to have a self-sponsoring shin-dig to fund their adoption...morally I would have a problem supporting such an event. Sounds like that is what you are battling too.