Well.... we had baby showers for both of our girls (#1- adopted, #2- homegrown). The showers are more about celebrating the arrival of a new family member than gift grabs, esp. when it came to our 2nd baby.
I don't have a problem with fundraising for adoption at all. There are many people who can easily support and care for a child, who don't have an extra $15-20k lying around. I say, whether it's car washes, garage sales, bake sales... go for it!
In my opinion, the comparison between the cost of birth and adoption is apples and oranges. Most people have insurance or government health coverage that takes care of all or nearly all of the expenses. We paid far less for medical coverage for DD#2's birth than we did for DD#1's adoption. But they're both priceless, so it's all good
