[MissyAmomChina]

Hi All,

Obviously, this has been a rough time for waiting parents. I've always felt that in everyone's adoption journey, there are 2 experiences. One, something will go much smoother than planned. And two, something will go much rougher than planned.

With the increased wait time, I've seen people's spirits go down (understandably). My heart goes out to all the waiting families, especially those who don't have the distraction and joys of a little one in their homes yet.

So, I was trying to think of things that would comfort waiting parents. I know when we had some set backs, I heard things like "It'll happen on God's time. Everything happens for a reason, It'll happen when it's meant to" etc. I appreciated the suppport, but those words didn't really resonate with me-- yet I could understand if they did help others.

I wanted to start a thread at what has helped you in your journey. One of my most comforting statements came from a person from my agency. I was given a new diagnosis right after our referral and was not cleared by my doctor to travel to China. I was devistated. I couldn't fathom how everything was going to play out. And I couldn't imagine loosing that time with my daughter. Then the agency employee said "Remember Melissa, you will get to be Lilianna's mother for the rest of her life." That brought me great peace.

I realize my situation is different from what's going here--and I realize what speaks to me, may not speak to you. But, I think we have a really great group of people here. I wanted to start a thread at what has helped you in your journey. It just may be the ray of hope someone else needs.

Take care,