[ShrBear]

I have to agree re: taking things slowly and carefully. When I met my birth mother 12 years ago, I didn't think live it in a consciously careful way, but I naturally did because she was quite emotional, and I wasn't very comfortable with what I experienced as too much emotion for me...and I felt a need to distance myself. I was quite a bit younger then and I was interested in this mainly for me only, I had my own interests at heart only. When I searched for my b father a year ago, I sent my email to him...but I edited it many times, and thought very consciously about what I wanted to say to him. I had both our interests at heart. All of my thoughtfulness paid off...he told me he had thought I was a thoughtful person just by the first impression he had gotten of me via this email. I did say to him in my email that if he didn't want any further contact, to just say so...I wasn't attached to the outcome of my search...and it was an incredibly empowering feeling! I would have been disappointed but my happiness wasn't resting on it.
So, more words to ponder for heartbroknshorty. Don't let this break your heart...(if that is what your user name refers to)...you can chose how you feel about this and what you will do with that.