stevenstwin: your 14 yo may not be in deep denial; he may want to know he can trust you first. That's what happened with my 14 yo.
As for blurting things out: my 8 yo said in cub scouts: "My dad's in jail". Of course, he has to say it at 2 different meetings. And of course, I'm the den mother who said to talk about family. I told him that he doesn't have to tell everyone that.
