[shy_bear]

We have a very open relationship with our oldest daughter's birthmom. We talk on a regular basis, email, and visit as often as our schedules will allow. She is graduating college next month and has moved in with her boyfriend. They came over yesterday for Easter dinner. This was the first time we have met her boyfriend. We were talking about the wonderful job that she accepted upon graduation. I asked her if she will be staying in her current apt. or looking for something bigger. She said they are thinking of buying a house. I went into the kitchen and her and daughter were playing cards. I over hear her telling M that once she is in her new house M can come over and spend the night. I was taken back that she said this. She has always been very respectful of us as M's parents. I would not allow M to spend the night there without one of us. I would not allow her to spend the night at any adults house without of us there and yes it makes me a little uncomfortable b/c she is her birthmom. My main prob. with the whole thing was that she said that to M; then my husband and I are going to look like the bad guys when we say no. My hubby thinks I am being too sensitive about this and I should not think twice about it. He said if it comes up again just say no end of discussion. Am I being silly and too sensitive?