I've done respite a few times for other families. Once was for a baby. The foster mom sent meds, diapers, bottles and formula. She also sent clothing.
Last week I provided respite for a six year old who might be coming back permanently and the foster mother only sent some clothes (not enough socks or pj's) no hair supplies (bi-racial female) no tooth brush.
Both times that I provided respite I was very dissapointed in what the fp's sent. The clothes were too small and old and they just didn't send the basics IMO. I don't mind providing food etc. I feel that's my job.
I needed respite for my fd one time. She was around 9-10 mos at the time. I'm sure I over packed. I didn't send her BEST stuff. But I didn't send old, too small, outdated stuff either. Who knows if the family had to go somewhere like out to dinner or to a function. I didn't get mad when stuff didn't come back either. I know sometimes it gets difficult to keep up with things.
Truthfully, I lose things in my own home LOL.