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Manni,
I can't speak for everyone but as for me I know I was called to adopt internationally. Through God taking some tragic circumstances in my life and turning them into something good and positive, I'm adopting my first son through my state's fost/adopt program. I have a beautiful, intelligent son whose adoption was supposed to take 6 months, we're now 9 1/2 months past that. His SW says his adoption should be finalized in the fall. My son will be 2 in December. Almost 2 years to adopt! It's insane!
As for private domestic adoption, I don't like the idea of getting my hopes up and then the birthmother changes her mind. That would just crush me, plus I'm not down with open adoption, which more and more domestic adoptions are becoming.
So for these reasons, I'm going where I was orginally called to go. Some places where the referral time is longer, but once I get to Vietnam or China or Guatemala, I know I will have a beautiful, wonderful baby in my arms.
As for what my family says about me adopting internationally, well my mother who isn't pro-adoption now speaks up on that subject for me. After witnessing this ongoing adoption process with her grandson, my mother now understands why people adopt internationally.
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