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My question is, why are you so sure you want a closed adoption? Are you afraid of sharing your child? Of someone else loving your child? Open adoption is not shared parenting, as many people think.


I would encourage you to do a lot of research before you say no to open adoption. I'm not sure I would call open adoption a "craze," as most crazes come and go quickly. I believe open adoption is going to become more and more the norm, as you are finding out.

Is open adoption for everyone? Probably not, and there may be circumstances where a closed situation would be in the best interest of all concerned (perhaps if the birthparent were dangerous or very abusive), but you might find that open or semi-open is not as bad as it originally sounds. DH and I are hoping to form our family through open adoption, and are currently speaking with a young woman who is considering us. We are slowly getting to know each other, and are developing a friendship, which we hope will continue to grow.

But, as I have said in other threads on this forum before, can I child really have too many who love them???