[madfostermomma]

After 5 months of placement with our fost adopt sons- questions are still lurking whether adopting is right or not for both my husband and myself. Both boys age 4 & 3 have severe speech delays but the 3 yr old copes by using gestures and signs. The 4 yr old refuses- he thinks we should be able to understand him so he when we cant understand him , he throws a major attitude. Lately we have also had daily tantrums at school - he punched a teacher , spits at kids and refuses to listen. He is getting a neuro evaluation in two weeks since he was born addicted and his sibling has ADHD. We do have counseling but I feel like I lean on him constantly. They have been moved a few times so they are "cautious" with us. TPR keeps getting delayed( even though mom has not worked caseplan ) so I can make no promises to them long term as of yet.

We want to adopt them but he makes it very hard to get close and my DH and I know this is an uphill battle for years to come.

I dont want to see these guys moved again but on the other hand am not sure I'm up for the battles that lie ahead. Anyone else ever have doubts?