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But I was one was once.

I agree that the choice she made was a very good one on not "paying for the gas". Punishing her for making a good choice may push her the other direction. I know that girls that age, who didn't recieve their father's attention or approval, like myself, go seek it somewhere else. I felt like I needed that male love that I wasn't getting.

I do not know how strong and mature your daughter is. Is she a leader or follower? If she is a strong leader, she could actually be a great influence on your FD. I know that you need to protect your daughter, but what kind of message would this send to your FD if you didn't allow your daughter to hang with her? Maybe pull in both their boundries of what they can do alone, like no more shopping at the mall alone.

If at all possible, I would try to contact the parents of the boys. If my son EVER did this, I would be all over him, I would definitely want to know.

It sounds like you are a great mom whe really cares for all the children in your home. I hope that you can find the right solution that works!

Melissa