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I too had cell phone problems and found out my bio-daughter was on the phone all hours of the night with an 18 yo boy of not too high standards. She lost her cell phone (about 6 months ago) for that one, and although she too had "no life" when I took it away, she has gotten over it. The big thing I told her was that it was a TRUST issue. She had broken our trust in her and that it would take TIME to rebuild that trust.
We still have phone problems, but we've put limits on phone calls, and when I go to bed at night, ALL the phones go into my bedroom with me - so not I don't have to worry that anyone is on the phone during the night! Also we have a rule that when you are on the phone, you stay in the "main" part of the house... no going off in your bedroom or the bathroom or outside or whatever.
As for what happened at the mall, in my opinion she did make a good choice to call you instead of putting out for the boys, and maybe you can use that as a positive. Speaking from experience, it is very hard to keep them away from a boy especially when they can see them at school, etc. You're just more apt to make her sneak around behind your back to see him.
With our girls, most of the time the boys they are seeing come to our house.... dinner, movie, board games, video games, etc. They can have fun, be together, and I don't have to worry about what's going on. Once they've been around us for a while, then we have a better idea of whether we will let them go off somewhere else. It has helped me have more peace of mind with one particular boy.
Hope this helps.
MomInAL
DD 18, DD 16, FD 15, FS 11, FS 9
(siblings - TPR'd 2/06)
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